The 30 Second Transition
By Maria Murphy
Sometimes the most important thing in a whole day is the rest we take between two deep breaths. ~Etty Hillesum
I was at a mentoring conference last week and one of the topics we discussed was the concept of “being present.” I mean, we all know what it feels like when someone is with us, but not really there. It’s a terrible feeling and it diminishes the trust we feel in that person.
When mentoring, it’s really very easy to lose track of the importance of “being present.” We can convince ourselves that being in the room is sufficient. Let’s face it; we can make some great excuses for why we are distracted and preoccupied. You know what I mean; work stress, our families, traffic. But being there in body is not enough and excuses don’t cut it with kids. Kids know when we are not “there” and it weakens the trust we need to build with them.
That said, how do we get to “being present?” It’s not so hard. Just takes a bit of effort and practice. One of the best ways to get there is to give yourself a minute or so of transition time. So often, we run from one activity to another and we don’t give ourselves a minute to shift gears. The result of all that rushing can be distractedness, lack of concentration and an overall feeling of being “behind the ball.” Creating a little transition time helps us feel centered and in control. It is worth the effort. Take a look and try it!
The 30 Second Transition
In your car, office, at home, wherever, take 30 seconds to breathe in and out. Believe it or not, this will feel much longer. Talk yourself through the transition. “I am going to meet my student now. I will put away everything else.” Keep breathing deeply, in and out. Remind yourself to let go of other stressors and worries. Remind yourself this time is for you and your student. See how it feels to give yourself 30 seconds to transition. 30 seconds to prep for your student.
Good luck and have a great month. And remember to believe in the power of your every contribution. |